I think I'll go with an A cam as it has been recommended the most out of all the options. I may upgrade to a KG2T later on but I'll roll with the OE cam for now.
So I did end up using a B21 gasket, but an Elring gasket. The first gasket I tried was a Pro Parts Sweden gasket that I had been using to mock stuff up. I don't really like PPS as a brand, but I accidentally ended up with a gasket set from them so I've been using them when mocking stuff up.
Anyway the PPS gasket has circular openings for the chamber, but the Elring gasket has openings that are shaped slightly to give more clearance for the chamber wall, and as a result it fits perfectly.
Fresh set of head bolts because I have at least two good sets in the garage but I can't find either of them:
And finally the head and block are united:
I'm waiting on a bunch of parts at the moment and trying to sort out the turbo housing so that I can send all the cast pieces out for ceramic coating.
So, it's very much still happening but expect to wait a couple more months for the final product :)