Cheers Egads - yes, the pin layout you've shown is the one that fits the theory. I've even done the wiring diagram thing and added pretty colours to it so I can follow the wires from the page to reality, lol.
Weird how Hella list it for the Volvo F6 truck but not the 140 series. And yet the working one I briefly extracted out of the white 142 was that exact beastie above, which worked as it should in the yellow 142. Peculiarities of Aussie CKD assembly, maybe.
The one on eBay though - $56 plus $41.50 shipping seems a trifle excessive for a relay. I'm also a bit concerned that the seller has only a 99.6% feedback ratio and the pic doesn't match the part number he's put in the description.
(EDIT - actually he has and it does - reader error). This feedback didn't inspire confidence either:
"Falsche Ware. Ganze Woche hinterher telefoniert, damit überhaupt was passiert!!!"
Those Germans have a way of sounding fierce, doesn't they...