The new diaphragm arrived from vanos-bmw.com today. Took about 2 weeks (from Russia!)
Removal of the diaphragm cap was straightforward after removing the 2 air inlet duct portions. I used a wood chisel on edge to pop the cap off as per something I saw on YouTube or a Google image, then the trim tool to lever it off fully.
A bit of gunk inside but not too bad. I guess that's to be expected with 1477xx km. Here you can see the tear in the diaphragm:
Reinstalling was a bit fiddly as you have to position the spring and diaphragm and get the cap on, and not much space to work under the inlet manifold. All up took me about 20-30 minutes. No more squeal! Yay! Total cost for diaphragm and postage was $27.50USD (= about $38AUD).